Excuse Me If My Optimism Is Pissing on Your Pessimism

“Maybe I’m not an overthinker—maybe I just understand how life moves.”

From Possibility to Preparation

I wasn’t raised to live in denial or blind positivity. From a young age, I was taught to hold possibility in one hand and contingency in the other. My father’s favorite saying was, “Always have a Plan A, B, C—and maybe even a D.”

When I began martial arts training, my first master told me, “For every move you learn, know at least five counters—and five counters to those counters.”

That discipline wasn’t about fear; it was about awareness and resilience. Looking back, I realize those lessons didn’t make me a pessimist—they made me strategic.

So when people tell me I overthink or “always plan for the worst,” I smile. Maybe I just see life’s moves before they’re made. Maybe I’ve just learned to carry water and sugar with me… in case life hands me lemons—or limes.

Surviving vs. Living

Life isn’t meant to be endured—it’s meant to be lived. But too often, we get stuck in survival mode, bracing for impact and calling it strength.

In my work as a healer, psychic, medium, and life coach, I’ve seen that growth doesn’t happen in comfort. It happens when we’re vulnerable enough to feel fully.

Healing isn’t pretending pain doesn’t exist—it’s recognizing it and transforming it into strength. Awareness doesn’t make life easier, but it makes the path clearer.

The Flip Side & Mindset

During one of the hardest seasons of my life, I worked in outside sales. I spent hours driving, listening to motivational tapes—Tony Robbins, Zig Ziglar, Florence Scovel Shinn.

Before each shift, I read Your Word Is Your Wand out loud. One night with a new recruit beside me, I read the whole book. That night, we sold at the first five doors we knocked on.

The next morning my bosses were shocked. “You read that book and sold five in a row?”I nodded. “Yes—but it’s not magic. It’s mindset.”

Success, like energy, responds to vibration.

Deaths & Rebirths

I’ve lived through seasons of loss so heavy I lost count—at one point fourteen in a single year. When I moved to Florida, I thought I was stepping into calm and sunshine. Instead, I lost my father and was forced to rebuild again.

Optimism wasn’t always easy. Sometimes pessimism tried to win. But optimism is courage. It’s the daily choice to face storms and say, “Not today.”

Coal doesn’t become a diamond by staying comfortable.

Becoming My Own Student

Recently, while remixing a recording from one of my meetups, I noticed filler words—and creeping negativity. If I’m going to teach transformation, I have to live it.

So I became my own student again—catching my words, reframing them, and choosing higher perspective. Words carry frequency. Every phrase builds or breaks the energy around us.

Optimism isn’t about ignoring possible outcomes. It’s about seeing them from higher ground—aligned with truth, not fear.

The Alchemy of Perspective

We’re in a collective transformation. Spiritual upgrades, astrological shifts, energetic awakenings—it can feel chaotic.

When it does, I return to basics:

• I listen to my thoughts.

• I anchor in awareness.

• I remember the lessons from my father, my first martial arts master, and my teachers.

Optimism is not naïve. It’s radical. It’s fierce. And yes—excuse me if my optimism is pissing on your pessimism.

Closing Invitation

Life will test you. Counters will come. Each one is an invitation to refine, deepen, and rise.

“The pessimist sees a wall. The optimist sees a doorway. The realist checks the hinges and carries a backup key.”

That’s me—a hopeful realist, carrying sugar, water, and a spare key. If my optimism spills into your space, it’s because I’ve seen too much light born through darkness to doubt transformation.

I welcome those who call me out when pessimism sneaks back in. Awareness, even when uncomfortable, leads to release. We grow through what we go through.

No one truly changes you—you change yourself.

About Rob | The Healing Frequency

Rob is a holistic healer, psychic, medium, and certified life coach who blends metaphysical wisdom with grounded strategy. Through The Healing Frequency, he helps clients harmonize mind, body, and spirit to align with purpose and flow.